Grief & Healing

When I was in a daze of shock and surrealness, someone told me I had all the tools I needed to get through the type of grief I was experiencing. I didn’t know what she meant at the time, until I started processing the full experience.

I noticed that the way I was explaining to myself what happened made the pain feel worse. I was blaming myself, even though I was constantly told it wasn’t my fault. That was until I spoke with a therapist, a spiritual mentor, and a psychic medium; hearing different perspectives and how the psychic medium explained what happened (which was later confirmed scientifically) helped me let go of self-blame and feel more acceptance.

Aside from the shift in perspective, these are other tools and practices that help me heal and work through grief:

• Practicing and PRIORITIZING self-care

• Energy healings and massages

• Making art

• Speaking with a trusted therapist, spiritual coach, and psychic medium

• Allowing myself to express my emotions when they arise (the waves of sadness became less frequent for me overtime)

• Listening to soothing music

• Moving my body in a way that feels good

• Joining support groups (virtually and in person)

• Hearing other people’s stories that are similar

• Lots of naps

• Cleansing my house and myself with sage

• Meditation and deep breathing

• Prayer and rituals

• Reading books about grief

• Ordering takeout when I didn’t have the energy to cook

• Journaling

• Asking for help when I need it

• Being around animals

• Drinking hot tea with extra honey

• Watching comedy shows and funny videos (we all deserve to have joy and laughter, even after loss)

May this help you if you are currently experiencing grief. We all process our emotions and experiences differently; find what works for you.